Ask the Tough Questions
I now know that when times become confusing, you have to ask yourself the tough questions in order to bring the clarity you need in order to make a rational, logical, and effective decision. When you’re alone with the people who claim to be your closest of friends, ask them personally, “What is it about me that you’re so attracted to?” When you are dating someone, ask them to describe to you specifically, “What is it about me that makes you want to spend a lifetime with me?” When you hear rumors about someone you’re dealing with and those rumors could potentially directly affect you, you should immediately inquire about it and not allow it to stay clouded in your mind. It messes up judgment and reason.
Pay attention to people if they become extremely defensive, when asking tough questions. That’s usually the biggest sign that they are full of nonsense. I suggest you disconnect the relationship and save yourself a lot of time. This is not to say that everybody is bad, but I will say this; dealing with the true feelings of people will allow you to know where you really stand. Tough questions merit tough responses and based upon your initial reaction to their response, you’ll be able to gain some more insight and awareness on your personal relationships.
I’ve been in the position where I was continually entertaining myself with people I really did not know. I really didn’t know them because I really did not care to ask the tough questions. It is not hard to be someone’s friend when all you’re doing is having fun. It is as if I was scared to know that people didn’t really like me but only the lifestyle I was providing. I always secretly knew the truth before but experiencing it now, is something quite different. Asking tough questions is like manufacturing a pressurized situation. When pressure comes into play, you’ll see people reveal themselves to you.